drama
SO life has been a little stressful lately. Really it all started about a year and a half ago when Thomas got his hand slammed in the car door of a friend of his. I blogged about it then. The owner of the car threatened to sue us cause she’s…. i don’t know what she is. ANYWAY, time passed, fences were mended and we remained friends for the kids sake. As our kids grew closer they became more comfortable with each other especially Thomas and L. L spent a great deal of time at our house in the last few months and she and Thomas have become inseparable. A few weeks ago they had a tif at school- nothing too serious- but L whacked Thomas in the head which constituted in her getting a referral. (the school has a no hitting policy that they are VERY strict with). The two of them have tapped each other here- mostly in playing. Well this particular hit caused some tears which resulted in more tears and both kids felt terrible. The day it happened L’s dad and I talked about it and to our knowledge the situation was over and the kids had moved on. WELL the mom -D- called me that night and was yelling so loud on the phone that when I held it away from my ear I could still hear her like she was in the room with me. I hung up- cause I don’t need to listen to that shit. She was completely irrational and saying stuff like Thomas was teachers pet and never got into trouble because of my ‘relationship’ with the teacher and my involvement in the school and just crap like that. whatever…… so the next day Thomas went to school thinking it was over and apparently L’s mom filled her head with irrational crap and she was very mad at Thomas and just made it a crazy day. For the most part Thomas ignored it- but D kept pushing him getting in more trouble. The next day after school Thomas got off the bus and was visibly upset. When he got into the car he said “you never told me you sued them mom…” and i said ‘WHAT?” and then he told me that L told him “my mom said you can’t come over for a year cause if you do your mom will sue us again.” wow…. i was stunned when I heard this. So I told Thomas I’d explain the situation to him later but that i NEVER sued them. After I got the boys a snack I called D and told her I didn’t appreciate her saying crap like that about me especially to her children. She denied it (please), then swore the conversation never took place in her home (PLEASE), and blah blah blah….. I knew she was lying to me. Then she had her daughter call me and lie to me too. I just couldn’t believe it. The next day presented more drama- but then Thomas left to Boy Scout camp and we had a wonderful weekend without all that crap. The next week had drama but Thomas managed to just ignore it and stay away from it- not really understanding it. He witnessed D freaking out at the bus stop and calling me a couple times to yell on the phone in which i hung up. So I finally explained what happened to him when he got his hand slammed in the car door. I still don’t know if that was the right decision. I didn’t tell him when it happened-and I never mentioned it afterwards. I really didn’t want him to ever know- because it’s stupid. And dramatic. So I explained to him that I needed D’s insurance information to file an accident report in order for my insurance to pay for the visit and x-rays. She refused and threatened to sue me and that she wouldn’t give me any money. I told her i didn’t want her money- not even for the co-pay or visit. (we ended up paying for everything out of pocket since we couldn’t file an accident report without their information) She completely over reacted and made the situation horrible for a very long time. I gave her my insurance card and told her to call my insurance agent cause she insisted that once I got her information i was going to sue her. It was awful. So I explained this to Thomas in simple terms. He didn’t understand it- how could he. But since then he’s had this fear that she was going to ‘sue’ us. He’s also become very protective of ME- and doesn’t want to cause problems so that she calls and yells again. My poor Thomas. What he didn’t see was that a few days ago at the bus stop I went off on D. I completely lost my temper and said things I shouldn’t have said. i stooped to her level and just let her have it. In all fairness to me, she said something about Thomas and I warned her that she better stop and that she didn’t want to get into it with me that day. She took another verbal jab at me and it was like hell was unleashed from my mouth. I threw the F bomb numerous times. When it was happening I just couldn’t stop- but when the bus came and Graham got off (Thomas had an after school activity) I completely changed and I was all smiles. I did NOT want him to see that. Since then she’s been overly nice to me. Thomas teacher stopped by yesterday to talk about the situation because it’s been affecting Thomas at school. Mick and I talked to Thomas in length the other night and it came out that he is scared she’ll sue us-. Today he told me that he’s REALLY scared she’ll call and yell at me again. Part of me thinks I should tell him about yelling at her- but I don’t really think that was the right thing to do. I keep telling him that I can defend myself and I’m not afraid of her- but he is and he wants to protect me from her. sigh…… When did life become so complicated for 11 year olds? He is supposed to be having fun and not worrying about ANYTHING except what game to play next-or where to hide for hide and seek or what he wants for dinner. Instead he’s worried about ME. ugh… i feel like the worlds worst mom. .. His teacher is concerned because his worry seems to be consuming him at school and he’s always trying to smooth things over with L so that she doesn’t tell her mom a ‘story’ then have her mom call and yell at me. He’s figured out that L fabricates stories to please her mom, and that her mom over reacts. He somehow thinks he can fix and control it- but my sweet boy can not. What a shitty lesson to learn at such a young age.
Anyway- I’m gonna drown my sorrows in bad sci fi.
T