Salt of the Earth

Took some of Mick’s back medicine today and spent the good part of the afternoon hallucinating in between cat naps. BUT it worked- or maybe I was so doped up I didn’t care one way or the other. I’m still a little loopy and my fingers aren’t typing as fast as they normally do.

In the past month I’ve found out that 3 people I know are getting a divorce and another couple is in the middle of trying to reconcile but it’s not looking good. In almost all instances the husbands started out with internet porn which then led to them finding younger women from online chat rooms. It’s terrible and scary to say the least. In one of the situations the couple had been together for 10 years- 3 of those years the husband had a secret affair with an internet girl. One of the couples were married for 8 years and the husband became addicted to internet porn. sigh….. The wife feels as though it was a kind of affair that her husband had- even though he wasn’t physically with another girl outside of porn. They just had a baby about 8 months ago in hopes of repairing the damage done. I can’t say that it’s really worked as she still doesn’t trust him. She asked my advice and i didn’t know what to say…. What constitutes an affair? Traditionally physical contact between two people right? But times have changed now with all this technology and the availability of internet porn. When is it considered an affair? Wikipedia’s definition is this:

An affair is a euphemism for a situation where two people are involved in an illicit sexual, romantic and/or passionate attachment, usually for a limited duration. The term usually implies sexual impropriety, but it is not necessarily the case. hmmmmm

Is internet porn considered an illicit sexual attachment? Or does it only count when it starts to effect the relationship? Will the courts start to see this as a viable reason for divorce and award the innocent party the same as they would if a physical affair happened? Will it soon be seen as committing adultery and grounds for a divorce or annulment? How will the church start to view this? Hmmmmm

I was discussing this subject with a neighbor friend of mine yesterday and she said that it’s the woman’s responsibility to keep the husband happy at home. I was shocked to hear her say that but gave her the benefit of the doubt but also decided to play devil’s advocate. WHAT IF the wife IS doing everything she can and the husband STILL chooses porn over her? Is that when it crosses over to being an ‘affair’? How does a woman even compete with porn? Can she? Is the husband responsible for his actions and staying attracted to his wife? Is it ok for the husband to find pleasure in porn? hmmmmmm

Well, i need to catch up on some drawings.
Watching The Shining….. scary….
T